Self Improvement is Self Confidence
Posted by Deepak Shetty on January 24, 2010
Speaking up in public, gatherings, parties, meetings can be embarrassing or nerve-wracking for many people. Even employees who are not normally shy feel panic at the thought of expressing ideas in front of the authorities or Boss. One can feel throat close up if asked to express an opinion. Or some people gather all the courage and try to take an initiative but by the time they do it the, the meeting is almost over, and the issue is effectively forgotten or sorted out. Some just plan and jot down points to communicate, however they do it when they are alone but can’t express when needed. Even if you are outspoken you’ll hesitate to communicate sometimes or may not put forward your point correctly.
To avoid all this and sound more confident there are some tips you can follow –
– Don’t wait for anyone to start the discussion, fearing your ideas are not that great or you are too shy, have the courage to take an initiative in the discussion. If you have an idea or an opinion, the first few moments after the meeting starts is a great time to speak up. By offering to start the discussion, you take on the role of facilitator, instead of expert. Your idea may even get the credit for generating the eventual solution coming out of the discussion.
– Start out with a statement that captures people’s attention.
– As in letter writing the basic rule is use “You” instead of “I” , in the same way , while communicating or discussing use “and” instead of “but”. As far as possible start your sentence positively, even if you don’t agree or contradict with the speaker. This helps you judge yourself when you are heard convincingly.
– When you are discussing objective facts instead of values, use a phrase such as, “My experience has always been that…” or “My research indicates that…” that will help you give your opinion extra credibility.
– Always end your discussion when you have made your point, if required always end with an offer to write out your ideas in more detail and send them on to the team later for their consideration or approval.
Follow this simple rules and improve yourself , improving oneself to speak is being confident within.
Written by Anu.