Posted by Deepak Shetty on January 17, 2009
Stop Flirting Deepak! This is most of the time I hear from my colleagues, team mates and friends…I take is as a compliment! I think Flirting is the only way to open the door to a romantic relationship with someone you don’t know and might not otherwise ever see again. Because of all of this, flirting is a very important skill, and it’s one that makes a lot of people nervous. According to me flirting is an art , and it can be learned and mastered. Let me share with you guys this special art , enjoy reading few tips – Caution! Take it easy, lower your expectations, Flirting is fun, but only if you don’t take it too seriously. Remember, U R just flirting!
• Look approachable – Relax and smile. Use your body language to give signals that you are the fun person that you are, and to show that you’re comfortable and confident.
• Read body language – Does the person look approachable? Do they appear interested in you? From the moment you see someone with whom you might want to flirt, you should read his or her body language.
• Make eye contact – Look at the person not for more than a moment or two. Do not stare. Just shoot the person a quick gaze, smile with your eyes, and then slowly look away. If you look back and notice the person looking back to meet your eyes, they’re likely interested in flirting a bit.
• Initiate a conversation with the person you’re interested in– If you don’t already know them simply make small talk. Perhaps the best way to strike up a conversation is to start with a simple observation which ends with a question: “Nice day isn’t it?” or “This place sure is packed, eh?” are just a couple examples.
• Start gradually sharing information about yourself in a reciprocal manner– If this small talk goes well, proceed to share a little information about yourself–just something small like what you do for a living or how you liked the show you just saw, for example. At some point, of course, you’ll want to introduce yourself and, hopefully, get the other person’s name.
• Give the person your complete attention– Laugh at their jokes, listen to their stories, and don’t get distracted by what’s going on around you. It’s more important to seem interested than to seem interesting, and you don’t want to hog the conversation. Being a good listener is far more important to successful flirting than being witty.
• Use body language to hint at your romantic intentions – If things are going really well, you might want to try to break the touch barrier. Touch his or her arm briefly and gently as you talk. Or be more assertive and hold the person’s hand when you cross the street, or if walking to a seat or a table, lead them by gently holding their arm. Touching in this manner helps break a “personal space” barrier. Pay attention to red flags, because some people have “personal space” issues and you don’t want to make them uncomfortable.
Close the deal.
Most flirting is just harmless fun, and nothing will ever come of it. Every now and then, though, you’ll meet someone who you’d like to see again and who you think would also like to see you again. Flirting is, after all, a type of courting ritual, a way to meet potential boyfriends or girlfriends, maybe even your future spouse. Don’t worry about wedding plans just yet, though; start by getting the person’s phone number. For most people, this is the hard part, because you have to actually make your intentions known, and in doing so you risk rejection. Be brave. Tell the person you’d like to see him or her again, and just ask for their phone number or, if it feels right, try to set up a date for some future time. If the person isn’t interested, don’t sweat it. There’ll always be another guy or girl to flirt with.
• Do not flirt with someone who you are sure that you’re not romantically interested in, period. Otherwise, you risk accidentally leading them on to embarrassment, uncomfortable interactions.
• Flirting is not appropriate everywhere. Funerals, for example, are generally not good places to flirt. Flirting in the workplace is also generally a no-no. If you happen to flirt at work, be on your best behavior, and don’t press the issue if the other person isn’t interested.
• Though humor is often a good way to flirt with people, try not to make any jokes that might make your flirting recipient uncomfortable. Though dirty jokes often come to mind when flirting with someone, they often have little or no place in a conversation and can result in the person being turned off or an awkward silence, killing the mood and making you feel embarrassed. Think before you speak, and remember, you don’t have to be funny all the time.
Apply these tips while flirting and share with your friends too! Happy Flirting!!
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